How To Navigate Business Challenges with a Positive Mindset | Ep. 13

Let’s be honest here, mindset is something you will continuously work on! Your brain has one job and that is to keep you safe. So anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone will cause your brain to throw up hurdles to keep you safe! In this episode of Coffee Social, Instagram Reels & Storytelling Coach Jonathan Howard & Social Audio Marketing Coach Mimi Langley share different ways you can push through the hard to get to the good. They’ll share what’s been working for them when they find themselves stuck in a rut or feeling defeated. It’s an episode that you don’t want to miss.

Health Disclaimer: As mentioned in the episode, we are not mental health professionals. Anything shared in this episode is from personal experience and is not mandatory to do or try.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
: Start investing in yourself. Whatever that looks like for you. We share some examples of what we’re doing in the episode.
: Turn to your entrepreneurial friends who understand & can remind you of who you are.
: Keep creating. Keep pushing. Being in motion can help respark good energy & goals.
: Lean into your faith and/or motivational resources.
: You can do hard things. You have gotten through hard before. Take a moment to remember how far you’ve come.

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how to have a positive mindset in business, how to stay positive for entrepreneurs, Mindfulness in business, Motivational resources for entrepreneurs, Entrepreneurial support, investing in yourself, Overcoming challenges in business, Self-care for entrepreneurs, Faith in entrepreneurship, Resilience in business, Goal-setting for success, Overcoming fear of failure, Personal development for business owners

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

We got to be honest here.

Speaker 2: 0:02

Mindset is something that you will always work on, because your brain has one job, and that single job that your brain has is to keep you safe. So when you are trying to do something new, when you're trying to push yourself outside of your comfort zone, your brain is like no, no, no, no, no, get back here, and it throws up obstacles. So every new jump in your business, you're going to have to deal with mindset. Every time you want to push yourself out of your comfort zone, you're going to have to deal with mindset. It's Coffee Social, the podcast, all about social media and business. And now here are your hosts, jonathan Howard and Mimi Langley.

Speaker 3: 0:49

Hi everyone.

Speaker 2: 0:51

Hi Jonathan Howard. Well, hello, mimi Langley.

Speaker 3: 0:55

Whoa, someone's perky today. What's going on over there?

Speaker 2: 0:59

It's just one of my favorite topics to talk about other than storytelling.

Speaker 3: 1:02

Are you so excited? So excited, because normally Jonathan's like halfway there with excitement, but he's like all the way there for this episode, all the way.

Speaker 2: 1:11

All the way. Last time I was all the way there was storytelling.

Speaker 3: 1:14

Most other ones, I'm just kind of here Listen this is one of those episodes where it's like you have to have this in check, forget everything else. This is like numero uno is your own mindset, so we're going to dive into it. You guys, we're really, really excited to talk about this. We do want to start off with a little disclaimer that we are not professional therapists or any of that stuff. We're not anywhere near the medicine field, the medical field.

Speaker 2: 1:42

Yeah, shit, I'm still working on myself.

Speaker 3: 1:47

So we just want to throw the disclaimer out there that anything we do share with you, it's really just from our own personal experience and what helps us. Had to throw that in there. Jonathan, Real quick though, before we cheers. Do you want to tell people who you are, just in case this is their first time at Coffee Social?

Speaker 2: 2:00

Oh, my God, we're remembering at the beginning of the show. Well, yes, my name is Jonathan Howard. I'm the owner of Success on Social. Did I do the really serious one in the last episode?

Speaker 3: 2:07

I think so.

Speaker 2: 2:08

Yeah, I help successful female coaches reach their ideal clients on social media through short form video sharing their story so that they can change the world. And Mimi over to you.

Speaker 3: 2:18

I love that. By the way, you did a really good job with that. Hey everyone, I'm Mimi Langley. I teach women in business how to host rooms, how to moderate on social audio that includes LinkedIn audio and Clubhouse to really grow your business from the ground up. It's a great way to get visible and get some leads and make some sales. So that's what I teach and preach about. Jonathan cheers, my friend, anybody else if you have a coffee or if you're drinking tea no shade to tea drinkers or matcha drinkers. We're here for it all. We have to sip. Hold on one second.

Speaker 2: 2:48

We have to sip.

Speaker 3: 2:50

I mean, that's a proper cheers right, Even though I forget all the time I might need another coffee. Yeah, we should probably get the Keurig going Waiter, waiter. Oh wait, hold on, excuse me, you don't have a Keurig, you have a Nespresso, I have a Nespresso, I have a Nespresso, yes, nespresso. Please sponsor this podcast. I'm just manifesting it for us now. Love Nespresso. I think the closest, real quick, the closest I got to a Nespresso was Kohl's. Do you remember that store, kohl's?

Speaker 2: 3:15

I do. We still have one here. That's where I bring all my Amazon returns, oh no, it's not Kohl's, no, it's Bed Bath Beyond.

Speaker 3: 3:22

You remember Bed Bath Beyond? Yeah, yeah, yeah, and you could sample. Yeah, that's the closest I ever got to an espresso. My dreams were coming true. Okay, you guys, let's talk about mindset. So we're having a little bit of fun right now, but it may get a little deep. So, jonathan, why don't you set us up with? Why should we even care?

Speaker 2: 3:46

I mean, we got to be honest here. Mindset is something that you will always work on, because your brain has one job, and that single job that your brain has is to keep you safe. So when you are trying to do something new, when you're trying to push yourself outside of your comfort zone, your brain is like no, no, no, no, no, get back here, and it throws up obstacles. So every new jump in your business, you're going to have to deal with mindset. Every time you want to push yourself out of your comfort zone, you're going to have to deal with mindset. So if you don't have a strategy and ways to deal with it, you're not going to be successful in business, because we need to push ourselves all the time.

Speaker 3: 4:30

I mean, Jonathan, that was so perfectly well said. You know, with business there's a lot of great moments, there's a lot of fun, excitement. I mean it's like sometimes it's like you're just, you're on this roller coaster of like, just like I can't believe. I'm experiencing this, you know, and it's great, but you're going to go through. There is no one out there that is an entrepreneur that has never had down moments, that's never had self-doubt. You know, that's never felt like I feel like a failure, that's never gone, Like there's no one. Everybody experiences it and there's some people, when their mindset is not thick enough, not strong enough, they get taken down and it's really sad and really unfortunate and we don't want that to be you.

Speaker 2: 5:12

Right, because you all have amazing things to give. I'm not going to lie, it can beat you down. There are times that I felt like I fell. There's times this week I felt like quitting. There's times last week I felt like quitting. But you have to have the mindset that says I can do this. I know that I can do this. Here's how I can do this.

Speaker 3: 5:33

And just to get you past that, I mean honestly, and I witnessed it. I watch you, jonathan, and you watch me. I mean absolutely Absolutely you guys. Okay, let's jump into, kind of you know, the first tip that we would share about managing your mindset. You know, when you're feeling like this, when you're feeling defeated, or you know it's going to happen, especially if you're in launch mode or something and you're trying to hit a certain amount of sales. One thing we have here is invest in yourself, and that can mean a lot of things to a lot of people, right? We all have a different meaning when we say invest in yourself.

Speaker 3: 6:08

For me, something different that I'm doing this time around, and I can just tell Jonathan that it has made the world of a difference. Number one I've been investing in my health, my wellness first and foremost, right Like fitness. Right, I walk every single day. I've been walking every single day for months now, and that has transpired so many things in my business. Believe it or not. You wouldn't think that they would align together, but they do. And then the other piece of me investing has been I've been investing in an energy alignment healer. So shout out to YoFit, that's my girl and she really keeps me in check, like she really. Anytime there's any bad, negative energy, I know that I can turn to her, you know. So what about you, Jonathan? Because you've talked about this in the past, in past episodes about investing in business coaches, et cetera. So go ahead, yeah.

Speaker 2: 6:59

Well, and I think it's so important that every entrepreneur has a business coach, because they're going to be the person that will help you get through the tough times. They're the people that have been through it. They're a few steps ahead of you, so they know the way. So when you look at it that way, you're like oh okay, I can make it through, they're going to help me, they're showing me the way. They're your guide. Investing in a guide is going to make things so much easier, but the other thing is investing in yourself learning, getting better at your craft, all of those things and they come from making mistakes. It comes from YouTube University. It comes from actually investing in a course that's going to help you set up an email sequence, or a coach that's going to help you do what you need to do in your business. That's investing in yourself and that is one of the best ways, best investments in your mindset, because then you know you can handle it.

Speaker 3: 7:55

I love that. That's so good, jonathan, yeah, so we hope that that piece. We hope we're encouraging you. A lot of us have money blocks we do. I'm going through that right now. I have a lot of money blocks and that's what has prevented me in the past from actually spending money on certain things that I probably should have spent money on a long time ago, because I was scared, I was nervous, I was all the things that money blocks brings to you. So, anywho, invest in yourself and again, that can mean whatever you want it to mean for yourself. The second you know tip for managing your mindset through business, that is this is this one, jonathan, you're a part of this one for me, and that is having a group of creatives, entrepreneurs, people who get it like they understand the mind of an entrepreneur. I know it's like we want to laugh at that, but we're, on a whole, nother level than most people who live their day-to-day lives. So how do you feel about that, having your go-to people?

Speaker 2: 8:57

Yeah, and you need to have a small group of go-to people, because if it's too big then there's too many ideas bouncing around and it gets too much. But a small group of go-to people that you know they have the same way, they're on the same wavelength as you. They're not your friends and family that don't care about your little business, that have nine to fives and because they're not meant to care about your little business, they're meant to do their nine to fives. They don't understand what you're going through. When you're launching, it's not something they do in nine to five. So, having those entrepreneurs that understand, that care, that connect with what you're doing and can advise you and help you on the journey because it's a journey and you're going to fall and you're going to need to get up and you're going to need people to say, hey, you got this, don't worry about it. You're going to need people to say no-transcript.

Speaker 3: 9:54

Yeah, I love that you brought up like you know, yes, family is amazing to have right, like if you're lucky enough to have a good family, like it's amazing to have right and your spouse is amazing to have, and you know.

Speaker 3: 10:06

But a lot of them wait what? They don't get it. They don't get it. Like they look at you like, oh okay, that's just me, me dreaming again, right. Like they look at you like you're not living in this current world, like you're living in fantasy land, like wait a minute. Like you want to write a book, you know. Like you want to start a podcast. Like what are you talking about? Like Joe Rogan is a podcaster. Like you want to be a podcaster, you know so if you're watching YouTube, jonathan's being hilarious right now. But it's true, you know YouTube, jonathan's being hilarious right now. But it's true. And sometimes you guys this is true Sometimes you reach out to the people that you're hoping will uplift you and they tear you down even more and you're already in a messed up mindset because something defeated you.

Speaker 3: 10:51

You feel defeated and you go to this one person hoping that they will pull you up and they take you even further down, and we don't need those people in our circle. Not when it comes to business, maybe other things, but not when it comes to your business. So it's so important to find people. How do you find people, by the way, jonathan, if they're just starting off? What do you recommend?

Speaker 2: 11:11

You know, honestly, networking there's I still, social audio is one of the best ways to meet people, um, that are in business trying to do things, um, just around your neighborhood. Hell, just leave your house and I'm not one for leaving the house, but hell, leave your house and you're going to find people that are willing to support you because they're doing the same thing, they're trying the same stuff. You, because they're doing the same thing, they're trying the same stuff. And I'm going to say this and I'm the harsh one but if somebody is not willing to support you in your ventures and they're not respecting your boundaries and your dreams and your beliefs in one area, then they're probably not worth it for any area. So why let them bring you down when you can go higher than them? They're just holding onto your coattails. Let them go. They're weighing you down.

Speaker 3: 12:05

Maybe that's for some of you listening in or watching in. Maybe that's some confirmation that you needed to hear today. I love that, jonathan. So good For me. Finding people. Number one social audio. I agree with you 100%. There's so many people I mean there's so many people on there that want to connect, and that there are entrepreneurs, and I think it's one of the easiest ways, because everybody from all over the world will get on social audio, so it's a great way to meet people. Okay, let's go ahead and go to this line that you have here, and I like this a lot.

Speaker 2: 12:34

So many of us feel like, oh my God, this failed, I'm over. Oh my God, this failed. Nobody joined this sucked.

Speaker 2: 12:43

I'm going to throw it out and you got to remember. It's not all or nothing. It's one step better each and every day. If you're getting one step better each and every day. Even if nobody joined, you learned something, you did something different. You made a difference in, maybe, somebody's life that's going to come back to you soon. So it's not all or nothing. It never will be so. One step better each and every day.

Speaker 3: 13:08

I love that. Even just talking about that, see what we mean about being amongst other creatives and entrepreneurs. It's like right there. And then if you're going through a crap moment right now, like just being reminded of that is so beautiful, like it can change your mind in like two seconds. It's crazy how fast it can work. So I love that. So good, so good. And that also applies to posting something on social media and getting no reach, right Like we're in the world of wanting to go viral.

Speaker 2: 13:39

Yeah, Screw going viral. Reach your people by being real and all that stuff. I don't want to go. We'll do a screw the going viral episode, I'm sure. But really what it boils down to is you want to talk to your people and if you're talking from the heart, you're connecting from the heart and they get it, just like you get it. That's what matters. That makes the difference.

Speaker 3: 14:02

I love that. By the way, if you are worried about sales, if you're in a sales funk right now, like you just haven't been selling and it's really getting you down. We have a whole episode about failing at sales, so we encourage you to listen to that one.

Speaker 2: 14:15

I had to go re-listen.

Speaker 3: 14:19

Me too. All the time. I love you. All right, let's go ahead. We'll go into a commercial break. Keep an ear out for these commercials because they keep the lights on but also we want you to take action. One of the commercials is about what we just talked about having a community of fellow creatives that you can bounce ideas off of. And then the other one is about showing up and delivering your message to your people. So we'll go ahead and roll the commercial break and we'll be back in a few seconds. You guys, to continue on talking about managing your mindset, take it away.

Speaker 2: 14:52

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Speaker 3: 14:55

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Speaker 3: 15:46

Okay, you guys, thank you for listening real quickly to those commercials. Again, they keep the lights on, so we'll put all the links in the show notes for you. So let's continue on this conversation, jonathan, about managing your mindset. And the next one that we have here is keep on keeping on. Keep on creating right, keep doing the things that are filling your cup right, and, before you know it, gosh. So much can come from just taking action and being in action right. New ideas come, sales finally come. I mean, there's so many benefits to just keep creating. What do you have to say about that, jonathan?

Speaker 2: 16:24

Yeah keep creating. And the other thing is, if it drags you down, it's time to outsource it. And one thing that my coach actually reminded me of and it's important to remember if it's going to takeource it, and one thing that my coach actually reminded me of and it's important to remember if it's going to take you more than your hourly so say, you would have to spend 20 hours on it it's going to be whatever you pay yourself an hour. If it's going to be more than that amount of frustration of money, you're actually losing money by not outsourcing it. So pay to outsource it and you'll feel so much better about your business, what you love to do, and you'll be able to create money in that time. So, instead of losing money because you're doing something that you don't love to do and it takes you longer and all those things, you'll be creating new opportunities, creating new connections and actually making more money in that time, thus making your hourly much more worth it.

Speaker 3: 17:17

I love this angle that you just talked about, because check in with yourself First of all. Why is your mindset feeling this way? Why are you feeling this way? Have a little bit of self-awareness. Sometimes you just need to take a pause to kind of get that self-awareness. Why is this making you feel this way? And, honestly, some of it. Sometimes it's the feeling of just being overwhelmed, stressed out, not feeling like that's not your strength, that's your weakness and you still have to do it, and so I love this idea of outsourcing. That can really save your mindset. Really, I love that.

Speaker 2: 17:52

Yeah and Mimi, how many times are we in a room and we say when I make enough money, when I'm making enough money, I will hire this person. Yeah, why not cut to the chase and hire that person, because then you'll be able to make enough money to pay for that person. You'll find a way, and they probably make more.

Speaker 3: 18:13

Probably make more.

Speaker 2: 18:15

It's manifesting by taking action.

Speaker 3: 18:18

Yeah, I love that. Such a good point. Basically, at the end of the day, we want to eliminate the things that bring you down. That's really what we're trying to do here, exactly by having self-awareness.

Speaker 2: 18:31

You know what's bringing me down what? Oh, there we go. I was going to say that my blazer is not buttoning over a t-shirt. That is bringing me down right now. I got to start walking like Mimi walking every day, everybody.

Speaker 3: 18:41

No, I love it. You look fabulous, by the way. Fabulous, love the t-shirt. Um, rent the runway, no. I own this one, jc Penne. Okay, um, I know, I, I know Saks Fifth Avenue. I already know. Okay, so the next way to manage your mindset that we want to bring up? Yeah, this is something you have.

Speaker 2: 19:06

So this is really important and I think it's something that we often miss and we start to beat ourselves up. So know that every single challenge you face, you already have the tools, the skills and everything that you need to overcome it. You've already been given it, it's already presented itself in a different way in your life and now, or it's presented itself in the same damn way and you didn't learn the lesson the first time. You got to learn it the second time, but now you're just reapplying things that you've learned in a different way to overcome that obstacle. And when you do things like that, it allows you to one, be innovative and creative and be successful and do the things that you like to do. But, two, it's not as much of a challenge because you see that you know you just got to look at what you've already got in your toolkit and maybe you'll learn a little extra something, a little extra this, a little extra that, but you got it. You always got it.

Speaker 3: 20:07

I love that because I think we don't realize sometimes what we have actually accomplished and what we've been through and what we've gotten through. I think because a lot of us don't take the time to reflect and really go backwards and look at all that stuff that we've done. But here's a quick thing that you can do if you haven't thought about it yet, and that is kind of have like a folder or something where you can turn to to be reminded of your accomplishments, just anything that's just going to do a quick reminder of who you are and how bad ASS you are, right. So yeah, I love that. Jonathan, do you have one of those, by the way, a folder like that?

Speaker 2: 20:44

I do, I do and I have a lot of really cool things in there that you know. Sometimes I go back way back to like when I was working in college bookstores and I was like did things that nobody else had done I was the youngest of this, or you know and while they don't necessarily apply, they remind me that I can accomplish things that I do, things that I did For me. I always say this and like I've already changed the world, so now it's my opportunity to help others do it, and I know how to do it because I've done it already. So if I feel like I'm getting beaten down and all that stuff, I go and I look at that and I'm like I did this. I can help other people do this and other people probably have better stories than me, so why not?

Speaker 3: 21:30

I love that and also have testimonials in there. You know, have those comments because there are gonna be times again where you put out something and there's it's like crickets, right, but. And so it makes you think, do people even care about what I have to say anymore? Like, is this making a difference? And so if you can go back and look at those comments, that man, oh man, can they really help you with your mindset? So good, jonathan. Okay, let's talk about. This is the last you know way that we have right now. We probably will do a part two four, 10, 20.

Speaker 3: 22:06

I know I was bringing it back. This one we have is you know, lean into, you know your faith or something, someone that can help you shift your mindset. So we just talked about having that folder of you know, your accomplishments and your testimonials. But, like a lot of us, I mean I'm a believer, I turn to God a lot. I lean in on him. One thing I also love to do is go on YouTube, and I love watching YouTube compilations of, sometimes, college speeches from Denzel Washington, graduation speeches, that's what it is. Those are good If you guys need something to listen to that will pump you up. Graduation speeches are amazing, even Oscar winning speeches. I love watching people. They're usually really motivating. I like to do that. A life-changing book I know, jonathan, you like to go back to a lot of the same books. What's that one?

Speaker 2: 23:09

Give us one book that you love that always reminds you for your mindset. I can't remember what the name was. Oh goodness would say, um, take the take the leap. Yes, that one, yes, that's probably one, and I've read it a couple times and each time I take a little something away from it. One of these days I'll get einstein time. It'll make sense to me and you know, um, but yeah, I mean an inspiring book, an inspiring, even an inspiring movie sometimes. Yeah, podcast, maybe Could they come to an inspiring podcast that talks about mindset and business and that would work From two New Yorkers, two New Yorkers, yeah, I mean that could work. What else? Oh, oh, oh, and this is a big one for me and you should. I think everybody should do this all the time, and it's a great way to celebrate your wins and all that Journal. Take the time to journal, yeah.

Speaker 3: 24:01

It's really really healthy. Well, that, and also getting it out of the mind, right, like just releasing it, that's how I look at journaling. Sometimes it's like I'm just like stop being in here, I need you to get out, I need you to go away. And so some people will take it as far as they'll write it out on a piece of paper like crumble it up and set that thing on fire. Some people bury it Like some people take it really seriously, they do.

Speaker 2: 24:27

And one more thing I want to share, and this is something that I've been noticing a lot more this year with myself and how I've been operating Lean into how your brain works. If you've got an ADD brain, lean into it. Let it do what it's going to do. Don't fight it, because for so many 40, some odd years I fought it and I would end up like half completed tasks everywhere. And by not fighting it, it allows it to work better. It allows me to figure out what I want to get done and what really matters to me personally and get things done. So, just leaning into the way your brain works and that's different for everybody. You know and I don't know how ADD I am or not ADD I am you know, it's just how I feel and all over the place, what shiny squirrel we love you? Yeah, but that's just lean into it and it makes the place. What shiny squirrel we love you? Yeah, but let's just lean into it and it makes life easier.

Speaker 3: 25:19

Yeah, I love that so much. Yeah, all of this, you guys, I mean this is why we come and we share, because maybe you haven't tried something out yet and it could completely change your life. Maybe you've tried it out and it just doesn't work for you and your brain. That's why it's so important to test things out for yourself.

Speaker 2: 25:35

I don't wake up early in the morning, so that all of those, oh my gosh, please, please listen.

Speaker 3: 25:40

Well, I do want to do the cold plunge. That is on my list of things. Yes, we're doing it. No, we're going to do it. You want to do it?

Speaker 2: 25:47

No, I don't even go into water, that's 78 degrees. No, no, let's do it Okay.

Speaker 3: 25:51

No, all right, jonathan, I think honestly we want to try to keep these episodes digestible, as you guys know, and if you're new here, we'd like to not go too too long. We want enough, just so you can take it away and remember it and digest it. And so, jonathan, let's go ahead and wrap this one up. Do you want to share with people how they can kind of stay connected with us?

Speaker 2: 26:13

Well, I mean, I guess they can follow us on IG and, by the way, all these links will be in the description Subscribe and follow on YouTube. Give us five stars. Yes, five stars, because Mimi loves stars. Anywhere you listen to your podcast, so your favorite podcast platform. And what do we have? Mimi.

Speaker 3: 26:33

Well, the most important question of them all, and that is are you team, mimi, or don't you walk away?

Speaker 1: 26:43

See, I even covered it, I'm not even gonna let you say it.

Speaker 3: 26:45

No, I'm not gonna let you say it Like bleep, bleep.

Speaker 2: 26:50

I'm the one that edits this.

Speaker 3: 26:53

You better keep that in there. Thank you, guys for listening. Thank you so much for your support. All right, bye, jonathan Howard bye everyone.

Speaker 2: 27:03

Bye Mimi Langley, oh yeah, bye Mimi Langley. I can see it. I can see it. Outro Music.